Pay It Forward Parent Guide
This incredibly positive and motivating movie for teens and adults teaches important principles about forgiveness and not letting past circumstances restrict your ability to move forward in life.
Parent Movie Review
When grade seven social studies teacher Eugene Simonet (Kevin Spacey) challenges his class to think of a way to change the world and put it into action, Trevor McKinney (Haley Joel Osment) takes the assignment to heart more than any prior student.
With his mother Arlene (Helen Hunt) separated from her boyfriend and struggling with alcohol addiction, while working as a waitress in a Las Vegas strip club and as a casino change girl, Trevor would have good justification to be hopeless himself. Contrary to his circumstance, he devises a plan called “pay it forward”—pick three people, do something good for them they can’t do themselves, and ask them to do the same for three others.
His first target is a homeless man for whom he provides food and a shower. His second aim is to find companionship for Mr. Simonet (a burn victim with emotional scars that match those on his face) and perhaps help his mother as well. Finally, Trevor vows to protect a young boy from some school bullies.
As Trevor’s plan spreads, more characters join the story, and we glimpse how paying it forward is changing the world. But from Trevor’s perspective, his idea seems doomed after discovering the homeless man still fighting drugs, the relationship between Mr. Simonet and his mother heading nowhere, and the unrelenting bullies attacking his classmate.
In keeping with the lifestyles portrayed, rough characters and Trevor frequently use moderate profanities, a theft and stabbing occur, a short sexual encounter without nudity is included, and barely clad dancers are the backdrop of a scene with Arlene in her skimpy waitress outfit sitting on a man’s lap.
Yet, while keeping these content concerns in mind, I found Pay It Forward to be an incredibly positive and motivating movie for teens that teaches important principles of forgiveness and not letting past circumstances restrict your ability to move forward in life. It’s also a beautiful demonstration of how putting a simple idea into practice can change the world.
By no means a “light” movie, parents will need to carefully decide if Pay It Forward’s message justifies the content.Directed by Mimi Leder. Starring Helen Hunt Kevin Spacey Haley Joel Osment. Running time: 123 minutes. Theatrical release October 20, 2000. Updated June 14, 2016
Pay It Forward Parents' Guide
What is the difference between people who talk about ideas and people who do them? Which type of person was Trevor? Which type was Mr. Simonet?
What happens to Arlene after she forgives her mother? Why is it important for us to forgive? How can refusing to forgive hold us hostage within past experiences?
Can you start “pay it forward” in your family? Even if you choose not to see the movie, the simple idea is worthy of trying: Meet as a family, have each member pick three people they can do something kind for, and see what happens!